Relationship, what is it?
Heres some dictionary meaning of it:
1) a connection, association, or involvement.
2) connection between persons by blood or marriage.
3) an emotional or other connection between people
4) a sexual involvement; affair.
Ofcourse, I'm not talking about the definition 2 or 4 here.
More about the BF/GFs kind of relationships.
Being single, I've observed many of my friends who are in relationships and am often puzzled by what they are looking for in their relationships and what they are doing in the relationships.
People who get into a relationship with just anyone because they are lonely. People who wants to control the other half in a relationship. People who wants to be Mr/Ms Perfect and just can't be truthful to their other half. People who says they love/like the other party but can't say specifically which parts. People who quarell over every single lil tiny bits of things in a relationship and still say they love their other half. LOL? People who talk abt loving their other half only with their mouth. People who don't give in even when they want to be with one another.
Recently had a friend who is having a relationship problem. After counselling both parties, I find that:
1) They say they love one another, when asked why, they said, because of the memories they had/because they appreciate what each other did.
(IMO, thats definitely not love, but its up to u to judge.)
2) Both sides are unwilling to sit down calmly and talk thing through, yet they claim they are trying not to let go of this relationship.
(IMO, either u're not matured enough to handle this relationship, or you simply just can't accept the fact/point of view of the other party.)
3) LOVE? Then give in please, wheres the sacrifice? Don't feel like sacrificing? Then YOU are the CAUSE of this BREAKUP, admit it, don't find things to freaking say its the fault of the other!
4) All they do, from what I can see, is try to gather as much info from whoever know any story/news from anyone of them that they are quarelling, know what the other party say, and try at all means to show that the other party is in the wrong. And starts quarelling with one another about what they tell others.
(All you 2 need to do, is seek out each other's point of view, not try to backstab one another infront of other people. Its you 2 who are unable to agree with one another, why bother getting ppl in and asking them to join u 2 in hating each other?)
Sorry but this is what I feel, no offense to any of you. If you do read my blog.
(And as I've said, its my blog.)
For me, its very simple, and it has always been. A relationship is there to make me a happier person. If it becomes a quarell-everyday-relationship, then fuck it, u're happier without it. Whats there to emo about breakup when all u do is try to hurt one another everyday by quarelling and finding faults at one another trying to make the other party feel tt he/she is in the wrong?
If I ever go into a relationship with anyone, it'll be because:
We have chemistry, we know what each other is thinking/feeling most of the time and we know when to give in and when to demand. It'll also be because we already know what each of us is like, and we are able to accept how each of us behaves. That means that we can be truthful at all times and if disagreement arises, we'll be able to just calmly talk it through and accept each other's point of view. We'll also want to spend time together, and do things together. (Although this MAY decrease as time pass, but it'll never be 0%) Anything else, I don't care. =)
Maybe what I'm looking for don't exist in this world, but hey, until I find this someone who share the same thought, I'll be single. =)
